Wedding Planner Q&A – Wedding Finances
Thursday, October 8th, 2009
Posted in Planning Advice , Wedding Planner Q&A
Part of my role as a wedding planner is to provide impartial advice on anything relating to a wedding. This is a very emotional time, and it can be easy for worries and concerns to get blown out of proportion and cause huge amounts of distress.
I see these sorts of problems all the time when helping couples plan their wedding, so today I’m launching a new Wedding Planner Q&A series where I’ll offer advice on how to deal with common situations and problems. If you have a question you’d like to share, drop me a line at with “ Wedding Planner Q&A ” as the title, and I’ll be sure to feature it here on the blog. Today we’re dealing with wedding finances…
Our parents are helping us to pay for our wedding, but we’re worried that they might start to take over with the decision making. How can we have them help and still have the wedding we want?
Try to avoid using their contributions towards the catering – if they pay for this area they may feel that they should be able to choose the menu or invite their friends who you may not know. Instead, I would suggest using the money towards items like the photographer, florist, stationery or transport. You can make sure they still feel involved by keeping them up-to-date with your plans and showing them websites of your shortlisted suppliers.
It’s difficult to put your foot down too hard when other people are helping pay for your wedding. However, this doesn’t mean you should feel railroaded into having something you don’t want. Talk through your ideas with them so that they can understand what you want for your day and can see how everything will fit together, and try to accommodate any reasonable requests where possible.